…from our family to yours!
…from our family to yours!
Our last post gave you the real deal about birth order:
First-born kids tend to have bigger vocabularies and higher IQs (mostly because they got a lot more one-on-one interaction with Mom and Dad back when they were the only game in town), while later-born kids tend to develop more creative and less verbal ways to get and keep your attention (mostly because if they didn’t, their well-spoken older siblings would gladly keep it all to themselves).
Over the weekend, the Doctor and the Dad read an article on the always-popular BabyCenter blog titled “First-born children are smarter because…” by Joey Lombardi. The post seemed like it might give parents some useful information about if, why and how first-born kids end up smarter than their younger siblings. Unfortunately, Joey seemed to struggle with the research he was discussing – he kept trying to cite this one article that he’s pretty sure he thinks he maybe read at some point (but couldn’t quite remember where), and he ended up saying “don’t quote me” on basically everything he just tried to say.
So the article turned out to be kind of a dud.
My two-year-old daughter still sucks her thumb when she is tired and drifting off to sleep. Lately though, she does it during the day, she’s sucked on a younger child’s pacifier at daycare, and she sucks on a toy pacifier that came with one of her dolls. Is she regressing developmentally? Could the fact that I am pregnant and talking about “the baby” a lot be making her want to do “baby” things?
Regressing to earlier developmental behavior, like thumbsucking and bottle or pacifier use, is a very common reaction to the news of a new sibling. (Just like increased beer bottle use is a common reaction to baby news for many first-time dads.)
Today, Megan asks an important question for anyone who has kids, ponies or dragons at home:
My 36-month-old has gone from pretending she and her stuffed animals are cartoon characters (which gave us some laughs at first) to now assigning names like “Rainbow Dash” to handfuls of random kids she meets at the park, and then chasing after them screaming, “Hurry! Hurry! We have to save you from the dragons!” Is this normal imaginative play, or certifiably crazy? Should I intervene and bring her back to reality?
First of all, don’t worry about it. Andy’s grandmother used to call every single driver she saw on the road “George,” and that was when she was a 948-month-old. So for a child as young as your daughter, this kind of play is totally normal.
Our longest “Ask the Doctor (or the Dad)” question to date comes from a shell-shocked guy named Gar:
My three year old is a terrorist. He cries to get what he wants (e.g., toys, a bathroom chaperone, cookies). Lately, we have started fighting terror with terror, putting him in timeout or threatening his beloved stuffed animals to force him to obey us and stop crying. As in the Middle East, This usually escalates the conflict and results in more crying before we exhaust him or a settlement is reached (sadly we do negotiate with terrorists). All of this feels wrong, is it?